tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post2804735831382176150..comments2024-03-23T22:45:11.889-04:00Comments on Divorce in Connecticut: NEW PROPOSAL FOR CONNECTICUT FAMILY COURT REFORM!Catharine Sloperhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08915766638552096174noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-50814814637370854662015-04-27T12:57:24.163-04:002015-04-27T12:57:24.163-04:00Responding to Ms. Addams fine post of a year ago.....Responding to Ms. Addams fine post of a year ago...her item #1, I wholeheartedly agree and appreciate her sage proposal. Let me quickly disclose my perspective: I'm in my 12th year as a Parent Educator and Consultant a single parent, and have been through my own high-conflict divorce with child custody at the forefront. I've been the targeted parent in PA efforts and after years of conflict, I prevailed on behalf of my children...and also on behalf of both parents! I have been witness to the positive, lasting impact of parenting classes on thousands of families now.<br /><br />"Considering what is at stake (in so many family law cases), parents should run to take parenting classes". - A. Jayne Major PhD, rest in peace<br /><br />It's been so helpful for parents to have tools, ideas, resources, and of course-education as we strive to maintain 1) our sanity through a high-stakes, often maddening processes, and 2) our effectiveness as stewards of our children. We owe them our best efforts to safeguard them from harm through turbulent times.James Schweikert CBPIhttp://www.breakthroughparents.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-62482386609548357882014-10-31T02:07:20.862-04:002014-10-31T02:07:20.862-04:00This is excellent advice. Many of these suggestion...This is excellent advice. Many of these suggestions have been given to me over the years and I have been unwilling to accept that I am dealing with a sociopath and I could actually deal with him on my own.Maira gomezhttp://onlinedivorceclass.net/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-28060191282049258082014-05-11T09:12:15.345-04:002014-05-11T09:12:15.345-04:00Inserting the State further into the family will n...Inserting the State further into the family will not help anyone in the family. The most sensible thing to do, which would have the greatest chance for a good outcome for the children, is to award primary custody to the person who was raising the children all along. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-17601305014779351492014-05-11T01:25:31.518-04:002014-05-11T01:25:31.518-04:00I think that family relations is a serious problem...I think that family relations is a serious problem as Jane says. When counselors from family relations are so burned out and cynical that they are no longer willing to be respectful and sympathetic towards the parents and children they are supposed to be serving, this is a serious concern. I would agree that the problem is that family relations workers are overwhelmed and often seem to feel unsupported. Granted that this is a problem, Jane's idea that family relations officers should earn additional CEUs makes sense. But even more than that, stress reduction initiatives must become a priority. Folks in family relations are right in the trenches, right on the front lines, and they need considerably more support than they are getting. This is just a general observation that I think the vast majority of people who have gone through the family relations system would probably make. So what Jane is saying here makes a considerable amount of common sense.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-85838561776645320192014-05-09T21:20:04.555-04:002014-05-09T21:20:04.555-04:00I appreciate all ideas for reform. But these sugg...I appreciate all ideas for reform. But these suggestions move in the wrong direction. Most of the deficiencies of the CT family law system relate to economic incentives. We need to reduce the ability of people to exploit financially families in difficult circumstances. Requiring people to get counseling, training or anything else only increases the possibility of financial exploitation. Dishonest, immoral counselors, trainers and therapists will show up, get judges to order families to retain their services and then bill them huge sums of money. Mandating counseling is a bad idea. That takes parenting rights from parents and gives them to the state. If the parents think their children should have counseling, then that's fine. But it is inappropriate to mandate things. Power to the parents!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com