tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post5706097421988340612..comments2024-03-23T22:45:11.889-04:00Comments on Divorce in Connecticut: CREATING A CT FAMILY COURT REFORM MOVEMENT THAT EVERYONE CAN GET BEHIND! Catharine Sloperhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08915766638552096174noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-89370947434393141272017-07-09T22:03:12.203-04:002017-07-09T22:03:12.203-04:00No question there's been progress and many con...No question there's been progress and many contributors. However, contributing for many requires time, effort and some cases money. What I don't get is why an individual or individuals in a group, who are highly affluent principled and action-oriented types, won't bond and go all out with an onslaught of legal action to accelerate this process. Why won't one graduate law school curriculum (ever heard of Yale Law? Snore) explore and report on the wonderful CT family court dynamics?..it should be stated again, what's the time horizon here relative to REAL progress? When will this entrenched legal rot be rooted out and rectified meaningfully? By century's end? or will new recruits arise (those young supportive admins and junior lawyers in cahoots today?) Does anyone care about not watching grass grow? Start a statewide fund to cover the legal expenses of taking decisive action! All I need is a payee and address and my substantive check is in the mail. Where are contributors' creativity re actionable ideas? Yes some limited progress has been made to date but can't we have a home run once in a while albeit in this huge ballpark? Think Big, myopic is out!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-42427979815682234282017-07-06T00:26:22.923-04:002017-07-06T00:26:22.923-04:00I would mention the achievements of activists, but...I would mention the achievements of activists, but I feel as though I don't want to single any particular individual out. All I will say is that the work of everyone who came in, who testified, who spoke to journalists, who stepped up to speak to legislators, who came to me and shared their stories, all of these people have contributed significantly and importantly and I think as a group we are all deeply grateful to all of these people. I 'd also like to include the immense contributions of those who have experienced retaliation and also those who were forced to work behind the scenes in fear of their lives and those of their children. Catharine Sloperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08915766638552096174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-33622504463967445512017-07-06T00:23:53.718-04:002017-07-06T00:23:53.718-04:00I think it is interesting that people continue to ...I think it is interesting that people continue to comment on family court and that new cases arise on an ongoing basis underscoring what this blog states, that we need reform of our family court system. I would also say that when our movement began, the CT Judicial Branch tried to laugh us off, tried to make light of us as "disgruntled litigants", tried to slander our reputations and lie about what they had been up to. I think that as a result of the good work of many journalists such as Anne Stevenson, Paul Boyne, Courtney LaBonte, Keith Harmon Snow, etc. etc. it is clear that what we have is a system that is riddled with corruption and a failure of ethics through and through. So at this point, although we haven't achieved all of our goals, I will say that we have established grounds for the public, the media, and the state legislature to take our concerns seriously. While it isn't everything we might want, I do consider this an important and significant achievement.Catharine Sloperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08915766638552096174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-86879016802215258512017-07-05T20:41:53.079-04:002017-07-05T20:41:53.079-04:00Did you ever get that right! Talk about something ...Did you ever get that right! Talk about something that resonates..however it's all about coalescing from the grass roots up and in CT to date, in large part, it's an offshoot of the Walking Dead..whats going to catalyze this state? More pain?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-676831083574549082017-07-05T20:33:13.317-04:002017-07-05T20:33:13.317-04:00Oh Lord, you are a disgrace to my gender..Get real...Oh Lord, you are a disgrace to my gender..Get real, forgive them for they know not what they do..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-70256264775394125342017-05-04T16:28:13.702-04:002017-05-04T16:28:13.702-04:00How did Couloute teach that little girl? She know...How did Couloute teach that little girl? She knows far too much about adult male anatomy for a five year old. But for some reason, Couloute can't pay a dime in child support. Drives a Caddy, commutes between Atlanta, Hartford and Buffalo on the road, but no money for food for his daughter. Expensive private school for son, $17k a year, but not a dime for daughter. Very strange. But no judge has mentioned it, no social worker. Even Connecticut DCF refuses to respond to inquires by NY Social Services. Needless to say, Governor Malloy has interest in this kid.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-30798386505817400582017-05-03T12:10:35.366-04:002017-05-03T12:10:35.366-04:00I love point number one: that all in chambers meet... I love point number one: that all in chambers meetings should be recorded. Much of my case has been in chambers with the judge and my attorney and my husband's attorney. I have asked many times if I could be present and the answer is always no. I don't understand how this can be legal. I am one of the parties, shouldn't I be able to at least be present when my case is being discussed?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-73262041658078757522017-05-02T11:44:49.437-04:002017-05-02T11:44:49.437-04:00Why would anyone want to come up with a solid, com...Why would anyone want to come up with a solid, common sense agenda for CT family court reform when instead we can run off and have a gender war!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-42414714845305380342017-05-01T13:02:52.896-04:002017-05-01T13:02:52.896-04:00Go to www.maccabuse.org under Research. See artic...Go to www.maccabuse.org under Research. See article "Triage Intake Screen." Also see DV reply "Look Before You Leap." Both explain who is behind the court appointment system - and that DV colludes in calling contested custody "A dispute to be resolved." Triage Intake Screen was developed by the court trade association - AFCC - using solely DV info of Janet Johnson and other AFCC members. BWJP is working with AFCC to increase court appointment. NO WHERE do either of these groups, court processes or proposed court processes consider THE BEST INTERESTS of the CHILDREN and whether or not shared parenting is harmful or even workable as parents would have to reside in the same school district as school buses will only pick up at one home. Who drives the other days? What if a parent goes to work before school starts? What about after school and holiday and summer care? None of these every day concerns are part of Triage Intake Screen or any "hybrid" evaluation. Figure out what is really being done and why BEFORE supporting legislative changes.doreen ludwighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15148541217980942371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-55394186025590290092017-05-01T12:55:29.197-04:002017-05-01T12:55:29.197-04:00Any law that has a pre-determined custody outcome ...Any law that has a pre-determined custody outcome - shared parenting - is nefarious. It is unethical for a judge to predetermine outcomes (or write orders) BEFORE hearing evidence and ruling based that evidence. Shared parenting is an option available to any parents who agree. The court is only allowed to determine outcomes where there are two contradictory Petitions - this means that parents MUST be in disagreement for the court to be authorized to write the custody order. Therefore laws that require shared parenting are in direct opposition to the nature of custody hearings in the first place. When there is disagreement and the court is trying to force "conciliation" or some type of shared parenting THAT is when appointees are assigned and the greater the levels of disagreement the greater the length of litigation and court appointee take-over of the family. This is a simple concept - WHY can't women and FRs understand it? Because it is all about money for them? To women - these men are using the kids to get tax-deductions, control and support decreases.doreen ludwighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15148541217980942371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-9325377655526786982017-05-01T12:47:14.552-04:002017-05-01T12:47:14.552-04:00I read post and comments. Glad you identified pro...I read post and comments. Glad you identified problems. I have to clarify: No State law can get rid of judicial immunity as it is a Constitutional Amendment. Don't believe anyone who says a law will get rid of judicial immunity. What you need is a law that forbids appointees acting as judicial actors - quasi or not. Get rid of immunity for appointees - lawyers and mental health practitioners and ENFORCE ethical standards for all including Judicial Canons. That would mean that any Player who is under-handed is in violation of ethics and can be sued (if not a judge) or taken off the bench (if a judge).doreen ludwighttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15148541217980942371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-47856256796795161492017-05-01T06:39:45.509-04:002017-05-01T06:39:45.509-04:00For #8 providing a DSM diagnosis. These family co...For #8 providing a DSM diagnosis. These family court professionals will just make something up as per usual. I don't know if it really complies with the ADA. Do you know anything about the ADA? Because #8 looks discriminatory. But you are saying it is worse now I guess.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-4379249800602419042017-05-01T06:37:03.042-04:002017-05-01T06:37:03.042-04:00These father's rights people in CT are a bunch...These father's rights people in CT are a bunch of wacked out dudes, sorry to say. They also lie and manipulate. So I know you are trying to be nice, but it's hard to succeed with that when only the mothers are really being sincere with their intentions. The men were going around selling SB # 1049 stating it would eliminate judicial immunity and then just didn't bother to mention that it also eliminated protections for women and children. They act like that part isn't there and how dare you even mention it. Well, that's just outright lies and misrepresentation. Father's rights people are like Communists--whatever it takes to move the Party forward they will do no matter what the crime that is required to do so. They don't care about the kids. For father's rights people, it is all about power, control, and male entitlement.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-47533805472757545952017-05-01T06:33:00.796-04:002017-05-01T06:33:00.796-04:00Some of these suggestions are already in place in ...Some of these suggestions are already in place in the family court trial compliance orders or in The CT Practice Book, but you are correct that Judges and attorneys regularly disregard them. The fact that they ignore these rules is a denial of litigants due process rights.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-69663051674874954222017-05-01T06:05:17.352-04:002017-05-01T06:05:17.352-04:00I agree with the comment above. This is all about...I agree with the comment above. This is all about promoting the agenda of the National Parents Organization (formerly Fathers & Families. Many of the members of the Coalition are members of NPO and they are funded and organized by that organization. So they don't care about anything else but pushing men's rights, shared parenting and the reduction of child support.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9173416929829483433.post-9960863088075371612017-04-30T22:51:21.738-04:002017-04-30T22:51:21.738-04:00You just don't get it. This isn't about f...You just don't get it. This isn't about family court reform. It's about promoting the father's rights movement in the State of Connecticut. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com