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  1. My ex "hired" an attorney (friend of his girlfriend) and she hand delivered an appearance to me in court; told me I had to go through her for any contact and now months later...that appearance was never filed in court and I need to go back and request a change in custody to sole. The court clerk said to contact her - I have - she won't respond. I guess she isn't his attorney? She was hire to help him with visitation but after a year still hasn't set that up. Also, I know his new address but his old one is with the court and not updated; he has blocked my phone numbers (even the one our child can reach him from); and will receive registered mail but won't respond to it. I can't afford an attorney and make too much for legal help. Now what do I do?

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  2. My off the cuff guess is that you should get advice from the judge on how to handle the situation. Yes, you can actually submit a motion entitled "Motion For Advice" from what I gather. But send me an email at: Slopercathy@gmail.com!

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  3. Update...not his attorney anymore. I tried to contact her several times and she finally called back. Told me I wasn't her client she didn't have to call me back; she has rude clients and doesn't need my attitude and the told me she was not his attorney and then hung up on me. Didn't leave me a moment to get a word in. Thinking about complaining to the bar - she told me I had to contact her, told me she was representing him and then pulls this garbage? Unprofessional at best! Anyways, she never filed anything and doesn't represent him as he has no leg to stand on.

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  4. I am shocked by the stories here. It is a La Costra Nostra-styled racket. Although I must warn you, even those GAL's that are court appointed can be tainted even though paid through paltry state funds. Those individuals are subject to contracts issued by a state agency. The administered contracts are only as good as the state agency officer initiated the contracts. The specific officer initiating the contracts has anything but the best interests of the child---or the taxpayer in mind. You see, it is not fiction when one speaks of Blacklisting in the state of Connecticut. GAL's that question or perhaps are "too much of a social worker" in the eyes of a specific civilly immune state agency employee can be blacklisted. Blacklisting comprises of withheld earned pay and non-renewal of a contract. Blacklisting is also confirmed to have been a utilized methodology in the realm of "Surrogate Parents." Taxpayer money is played with as if it is a private pile of treasure reigned over by a few specific players within state agencies. There is plenty of blame to go around and the problem not only falls on private GAL's (which I agree wholly with the assessments here), but more so on public GAL's and surrogate parents---whose hands are TIED due to the corruption with the state agencies administering contracts. For example, at one surrogate parent meeting (in front of hundreds of professionals vying for positions as surrogate parents), the presenter gleefully stated that anyone in the audience would not have a contract renewed by her personally, if they angered her in any way . This power over tax payer money IS the corruption that needs to be dealt with.

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    1. This is very useful information as we try to formulate what we need to do in order to have effective reform of the GAL system. I also find what you are saying very shocking from a taxpayer and parent's point of view. Thanks for sharing this information.

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  5. You certainly have an informative blog and many of your viewpoints are on spot. You and your readers should peek at http://cruel-injustice-in-ct.blogspot.com This woman who once worked for a high profile attorney REALLY got a raw deal. Top it off she has been respectful and not published names.

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    1. Thanks for the suggestion. I'll check it out!

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  6. Hi, I was divorced in 2009 (in CT). I have two children my ex was supporting and my youngest is graduating high school this June, can I get an Educational Support Order now that makes my ex continue to pay child support while the two children go to college. He refuses to pay for college, one child is 19 the other is 18. All I want is the child support to continue while in college.

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    1. Deb, unless your children are severely handicapped, there is no child support beyond the age of 18. That said, support for College Fees beyond the age of 18 where the money goes directly to the College or to the Child to pay room and board expenses is absolutely possible. What you have to do is first try to get your ex to agree to pay at least 50% or more, depending upon his income, and you might seek to obtain retroactive College fees if he has not been paying for your children who are already over 18. If your ex will not come to a voluntary agreement, you can then make a Motion For Attorney's Fees with the Court. I believe the Court would be quite sympathetic to your request to make sure that your children are educated. But if you put in a request in child support terms, the Court will go ballistic against you. If you google the term Educational Support Orders in the State of Connecticut, you should come across the CT General Statute that supports this. Remember, you will be expected to pay a percentage of College fees as well based upon your income. But remember, I am not an attorney and cannot give legal advice. This is only what I know because I have children as well and checked these concerns out earlier!

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  7. Alert on James Wing ..two filed grievance complaints 2011 and 2014 against him, one current malpractice April 2014, mentioned in parent's GAL( by name) as negligent...AVVO report is "superb",2 recent negative reviews were removed....His PR machine has to work overtime to hide his trail of incompetence.I wish there was a way to let people know a lawyer's record...I hired him on his AVVO rating. I think he may write his on positive
    reviews as they are so over the top: "My Last Hope" etc

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    1. I hired attorney James Wing I was very upfront and told him in detail of my situation as it relates to custody and visitation . I remember him saying something to the effect that I was the better parent and he knew he could make the court see that after ten thousand dollars and legal fees he did not do that . He actually did little to nothing for my case what he did do was bill for me an extreme amount of hours and I always paid my bills in full . I remember how I could never speak to him directly and always his paralegal and at one point I could no longer speak to her everyone was unreachable .

      He is not the attorney to hire he will promise you the moon in that initial conversation and you will achieve nothing of what he says

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  8. Does anyone have any feedback on Dr. Howard Krieger?

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    1. Dr. Krieger was notoriously involved in Susan Skipp's case, I understand. He has been the subject of considerable complaints and I would be very cautious about working with him.

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  9. Everyone, be very very wary of Elizabeth Sharpe (Terri) GAL, unless you are a man. She supports fathers and will fabricate data. She is in Fairfield County.

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    1. Elizabeth Sharpe (cos cob, ct office) is indeed one to be avoided if your are the Mom. She was 'appointed'/ 'assigned' to my case on POST judgement (trial court decided) matters (read between the lines...the Dad, my husband was after a baseless reduction of Unallocated (!) Alimony & Child Support, which even my 16 yr old daughter (!!) being 'used' by her Dad went on Affidavit Record as saying so (that thankfully ended that horrific escapade into gross negligence GAL land for me...no such luck for the many other parents out there whose 'under-age' children are pawns for the paying Dad spouse). When I, the Mom, brought to Elizabeth Shape's office a binder of relevant info re my (virtual vote w her feet) 16 yr old daughter's cogent history (medical, school, athletics, interests, the typical dossier), the first words out of Elizabeth Sharpe's mouth were "is my bribe in there as well?". I shit you not. It was horrifying. I had the good sense to file against her and call into question whether the whole escapade/charade was to deplete my daughter's trust funds, including college ones. I even called her and accused her of that...that, and only that, was when she backed off herself courtside via her own motions for order 'clarification' (meaning her role). It was a circus nevertheless. She was called out on her BS, she knew it, she fortunately was prevented from getting paid a dime as a baseless GAL, but several 'dimes' were nevertheless spent in having her removed of her own accord. I suspect there was 'revenue sharing' amongst the attorneys of record to achieve such. Personally I construe, or would argue, unrecognized or unreported 'revenue, or fee, sharing' as a cute euphemism for flat-out illegal kickbacks. Which I doubt are either caught by the extremely lame CT IOLTA random audit system (set up by the judges of superior court themselves in their inimitable foxes-watching-henhouses fashion endemic in their midst) or are reported on the attorneys Federal and State returns (and the State of CT turns a huge blind eye to attorney 'fee' IOLTA/Trustee accounts/money laundering vehicles btw). In any event, the previous poster is dead on correct...DO NOT AGREE NOR MEET WITH ELIZABETH SHARPE OF GREENWICH, CT!! if you are the Mom trying to right by your kids and your own self. Unless you bring the bribe.

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    2. I am another mom here to warn women against Elizabeth Sharpe. My ex called for her appointment when our son was almost 13. It's unusual for a GAL to be called in when the child is that age. Their father/son relationship was broken before my ex left, but instead of working with counseling to help mend their rift, my ex was intent on claiming I was to blame for alienating our son from him, and he and his attorney got the court to assign Ms. Sharpe.
      I found Ms. Sharpe to be completely unscrupulous. She is fond of referring to your children as "her clients". In my case, in the two+ nightmare years of our divorce, she met with my son (her client) for a grand total of half an hour, in which, according to my son, she spent the whole time bragging about how her clients love her, citing how the father of one of her other "client's" had treated her and the child to a Yankee game and put "Thank You, Elizabeth Sharpe" up on the Diamondvision. She spent no time interviewing my son about his feelings about the divorce, or the father/son therapy.
      If you have the misfortune to have her appointed to your case, do not answer the phone when she calls! Conduct all communication with her in writing via letter, email or text. Be warned, she'll call you on the phone with a friendly demeanor, spending the first 10 minutes on pleasantries, then talk to you for long periods about anything and everything. She will intimate that your cooperation in speaking to her for as long as she wishes is required. If you have the temerity to question the purpose for the call, her demeanor changes in an instant to a very brusque and threatening one. Of course every second you are speaking to her she's on the clock, billing at $400+ an hour. She did the same thing with the therapist my ex and son were working with until he put a stop to it.
      I did not ask for her services, my ex and his attorney did, but her fees will come out of your JOINT assets, so you're paying her to work against you.
      Initially I was naive (or just stupid), I thought the court would not assign someone who did not have the best interest of the children at heart. They may indeed be well-intentioned but the family court system is a money-making black hole, populated with many unethical, greedy people. Beware and make sure there's a paper trail.

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    3. I am another mom abused by Terry Sharpe. Avoid this woman like the plague. I have lost my life savings. She enables abuse. She has five different personalities and all are EVIL

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  10. Can you recommend a good GAL? And how much to do you need to have to support your motion for one?

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    1. I am not an attorney and cannot give legal advice. I don't know any good GALs. By definition the term means "bad" as far as I know, not kidding. I don't exactly understand your second question? What do you mean by "have"?

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    2. Tell your readers please that in your, or at least your devoted posters humble experience and opinion, you/they have yet to hear or report of a single one. Please relay that it is ALL about money-grubbing and a concerted court ordered and recognized sheer financial draining exercise in futility, for all parties (parents) concerned, and also the kids. Please direct them to the small modicum success of GAL atrocities and reform via web sites, hearings, legislative actions, you tube and the like. Please scare these otherwise good folks off from the direct pathway to hell via the CT Judiciary.

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    3. Avoid Terry Sharpe (Cos Cob) who is absolutely the most corrupt GAL you will ever come across. She is pro father but will not perform basic duties will not investigate anything harmful to the children - just skip a GAL and go straight to DFS especially if you have problems with an alcoholic parent who is endangering your children. She will drain your finances produce false invoices and pretend her communications with you were "stuck" in her draft box. She is an old lesbian with an axe to grind against women. She has no idea what it is like to raise children and will work against you even when you have thriving children. She is a pathological narcissist enabling pathological narcissist fathers bury the mothers of their children. This woman should be put in jail.

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  11. Live the blog. It's very helpful. Please join us here https://www.facebook.com/groups/491161954367811/
    Anyone else

    it's a page of people fighting the same courts all over the world and trying to organize and resource together but who've been alienated from their children using these corrupt courts and manipulation.
    Anyone else who are losing the battle for their kids please feel free to join.
    I am the Admin and from Enfield Connecticut with my court case in Tolland county. I'd love to share thoughts and ideas with you
    -kelly

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    1. I would say that Judge Holly Whetstone is known for being a particularly bad judge and I had understood that because of that she was removed from family court and is in some other court at this time. Also, I have generally heard that the Rockville Court is a particularly rough court so I'm not surprised that you had a particularly difficult situation. FYI, parental alienation syndrome and its offspring are a father's rights invention that is used to divest fit mother's of custody of their children and cut off all mother's access to the children. This is very different than domestic violence by proxy where men seize control of the children and use them as pawns in family court to harm a fit mother and legally abuse. Just FYI.

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  12. Can anyone recommend an attorney that won't take advantage of me involving parental alienation and PAS. The Bridgeport court has done a good job of frustrating me in resolving this and i am tiring of the feeder networks Gals and phycologists substituting for judges who seem to like to outsources and continue the cycle of expenses and adversarial contests. It's going on a year and half that I have not seen my daughter.

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    1. I was just wondering if there's been any improvement in your case?

      What resources if any have you used? It seem like PAS is something of CT because everytime I mention it to someone they have zero knowledge of it...!

      Can anyone share anything about the Bridgeport Court System?

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  13. Does anyone have any feedback, experiences or comments on
    DR. JAMES CONNOLLY or LISA KERIN?

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    1. Dr. James Connolly I believe is a long time insider. I have not heard of Lisa Kerin.

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    2. Just FYI, see this link of Lisa Kerin, but take all of these kinds of comments with a grain of salt. See link: http://www.yellowpages.com/milford-ct/mip/lisa-kerin-msw-1651275

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  14. Personally, and this is my particularly prejudice, I don't think social workers are sufficiently knowledgeable to assist with clients who are having problems in family court. I would look for a person with a PH.D. at the very least.

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  15. I just don't Trust anyone the court appoints or that the lawyers insist on. Frankly, if you have insurance you can contact them for a list of providers so why have the court or Atty. select a therapist or psychologist.

    I totally agree with the comment made regarding SW - I have come across a review on Lisa Kerin in Yelp that was alarming to say the least.

    Have anyone encountered a true ethical psychologist that you can recommend for my 15 yr old kid?

    Someone recommended Linda Smith, but after reading this blog I will stay away from her. Harry Adamakos? Please share your experience or recommendations. Thank you so much!

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  16. I don't believe you are required to use a court appointed professional for an ongoing court case. Any professional can become involved. It's only when there is a court ordered custody evaluation or co-manager that a court would be involved. If it is just counseling for a 15 year old child then any psychologist should be fine. I've gotten to the point where if anybody who is a lawyer or court related individual recommends anyone to me, I automatically cross them off my list. Dr. Gruen? Dr. Stephen Humphries?

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  18. I just do not understand Family Court in CT. Dad has a pending case for Neglect & endangerment, son is removed until the case is resolved. However, he STILL has my younger kid during his parenting time and is still trying to get Full Custody.

    How is this possible? He's ok to be around one kid and not the other? And yet, one case is in Criminal Court and the other in Family and one has Nothing to do with another! Everything is blamed on PAS - I just don't understand!

    IF anyone has any knowledge or knows of any helpful information PLEASE let me know. The GAL does absolutely nothing - Everyone just wants money... I don't know what is going on with our Court System!

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    1. Deal directly with the police and family services if your child is in danger. GALs do zero except take your money

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  19. How can one even get rid of a GAL? You are absolutely right, they do absolutely nothing at all! I'm not saying all - but by far the one my kids have earns his money doing nothing at all!!! It's a shame and truly a dis-service to the profession!

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    1. After many years of Terry Sharp's unethical representation of my children, she was legally removed as AMC. This made new case law for CT in 2010. You can use this case and try to remove your GAL.

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  20. The U.S.DOJ funded an investigation-finding the nation's minors attorneys and custody evaluators recommend and the nation's judges award custody to abusive fathers-based on parental alienation. It's not just Connecticut, it's the nation. To get rid of a GAL, you threaten to sue them, and they will exit stage left. But no matter how many judges or GAL's you get rid of, another horrific, horrible one will replace them.

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  21. The one thing good fit non-custodial mothers have in common is they have an abuse case. The nation's divorce courts label abuse cases, parental alienation cases, awarding abusive fathers custody, court ordering protective moms, no contact or supervised visits.

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  22. Well...been waiting to see if you have posted anything about the past election results with President-Elect Trump. I'm sure you were pro=Hillary as most women are because she advocated for women's rights in several areas, but now that is gone, gone, gone. With Trump he knows you play the "woman card" as he phrased his choice of words, but truthfully Roe vs Wade is going bye bye, VAWA is going bye bye...all of Joe Biden's work for women is going down the hole. If you look at results last year in Massachusetts governor challenge Martha Coakley vs Charlie Baker...although Ma. is a heavy Democratic state all the dads DID NOT WANT Coakley and she lost the election, and dads once again being a powerful voting block put down Senator "Loud mouth" Warren and Hillary.You wont get any cooperation unless you stop advancing yourselves at the expense of men. Thats Megan kelly's definition (Fox news) of a feminist.

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