In an earlier blog on the Kathi Sorrentino case, I had spoken of the book "Man's Search For Meaning" in which Viktor Frankl stated that of all the many sufferings he endured in the Nazi Concentration camps, the worst he had to bear were not the physical privations, but the verbal abuse he had to put up with on a daily basis. When asked, "Why was this so?" his answer was, "Because it was so unfair."
The context in which Mr. Frankl's words make the most sense in our Family Courts is in regard to how Judges bully and badger self-represented parties during hearings. In ways that are very predictable, judges treat the represented party as if he can do no wrong, while judges consistently browbeat, harass, and pass judgment on the character of the self represented parties. This is one of the most unfair aspects of our corrupt Family Court system.
This phenomenon represents an ongoing, hidden disgrace in terms of how the Court treats litigants in Family Courts throughout the State of Connecticut. In the hearing that took place on May 23, 2014, Kathi Sorrentino fell victim to the policy of abusing self-represented parties, and thus ended up losing custody of her son, Storm.
In this blog, I am referring to Judge Corinne Klatt who conducted Kathi Sorrentino's trial, but the bottom line is the techniques judges use in abusing self represented parties are well known and clearly judges discuss and share approaches. So all of them stand guilty of the same abusive behavior, not just any single judge.
Disregarding Court Rules:
The most common piece of nonsense Judges allow in hearings with self represented parties is to allow the opposing attorney to submit motions right when the hearing starts. This is a violation of the due process right to know what you are being accused of in advance of the proceedings. Thus, with Kathi Sorrentino, Dr. Eric Frazer submitted a status report that Kathi hadn't had the opportunity to see prior to the hearing. Second, in Kathi Sorrentino's case, the judge allowed the opposing attorney to switch around the order of the witnesses right in the middle of the hearing which gave him considerable advantage. As long as attorneys can manipulate the legal proceedings at will and a self-represented party has no recourse for that, it is unlikely that a self-represented party will ever have a fair hearing.
Often, judges will mislead self-represented litigants about court procedures as a way to disrupt their legal defense. For instance, in my case the Judge told me that I did not have to object to decisions I disagreed with because the rules of the CT Practice Book had changed and objections were no longer necessary to preserve your right to appeal. In fact, this was totally untrue.
Likewise, Judge Corinne Klatt told Kathi Sorrentino that you are not allowed to object to a question that the opposing attorney posed, when in fact, of course you can. Also, Judge Klatt told Kathi she was not allowed to object to an answer. Ok, so you might not be able to "object" to an answer, but you can certainly expose the weaknesses in an answer during later examination.
At other times when Kathi Sorrentino was legitimately standing up to state her objections, Judge Klatt responded with, "Please, stop interrupting." and "Stop shouting out in the courtroom." So an attorney who objects is objecting, but a self represented party who objects is interrupting or shouting. This kind of judicial reframing of the actions of a self-represented party turns the application of a standard court procedure into a form of wrongdoing which could be punished by a contempt of court. How can you possibly argue on behalf of your position under such intimidating conditions?
Shouting loud commands:
Judges also bully self-represented parties by using repeated loud commands. For instance this exchange during one part of the May 23, 2014 hearing:
Kathi: Did I ever deny you any time during your parenting time?
Sam: No.
Kathi: Not mine because, as you...
Sam: No.
Kathi: You admitted...
Judge Klatt: All right. All right.
Kathi: You do ask to...
Judge Klatt: All right. All right. All right.
Kathi: Ok.
Judge Klatt: He's answered the question. You're not to argue with the witness; understand me?
Kathi: Ok.
Judge Klatt: Ask your next question.
As I read through this transcript, I didn't see that Kathi had been arguing, but this is the point, that the Judge imposes an interpretation on a neutral situation and finds wrongdoing where there is none.
Other behaviors like this include repeatedly going "Stop, stop, stop, stop" when Kathi Sorrentino was doing something minor like handing over an exhibit too quickly, or another variation, "Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa!" when Kathi asked the other side to show proof in regard to a statement they made. Or when Kathi tried to elicit testimony from her ex-husband as to why he refused to continue with court ordered co-parenting therapy, "No. No. No. No. No."
There are also situations where a judge doesn't think you are conducting your examination fast enough as a self-represented party and after each question barks out, "next question!, next question!, next question!" as Judge Klatt did with Kathi Sorrentino. Or consider this outburst from Judge Klatt when she didn't think Kathi was going fast enough in her examination "This is the last time, move on to the next question. I have ordered you five times. I've actually counted. Five times I've ordered you to move on from that subject. Next question or I will stop this cross examination."
Treatment like that inevitably leads self-represented parties to feel hurried and fragmented and judges do it for that reason. Judges also like to tell self-represented parties off for using up so much of the Court's valuable time on their miserable self-defense. For instance, Judge Klatt: "We are not going to turn this into a three day procedure. Please." Or else this exchange during Ms. Sorrentino's cross-examination of her ex:
Judge Klatt: Just ask your next question.
Kathi: So we have it on the record that Storm is registered...
Judge Klatt: Please ask your next question.
Kathi: with Dr. Landis...
Judge Klatt: Are you finished with your questions?
Kathi: Okay.
Judge Klatt: Are you finished with your questions?
Kathi: No. No, I'm not.
Judge Klatt: Please. Then go.
Again, when Kathi Sorrentino was attempting to make her final remarks she didn't say them fast enough for Judge Corinne Klatt as the following interchange indicates:
Judge Klatt: Other than that, what do you want to tell me because...
Kathi: Why?
Judge Klatt: ...quite frankly, ma'am, I'm about to shut you off.
Kathi: Why?
Judge Klatt: We've got three minutes left. You've taken all day. And as I've indicated, I think that's been a deliberate behavior on your part...
Kathi: I'm sorry. It's not deliberate.
Soliciting or Providing Testimony Outside Judicial Role: Frequently, when judges see there are big holes in a case, they will simply find a way to get the testimony in that is necessary to throw it in the direction of the particular litigant they've decided will win.
In my case, I recall the judge asking my ex's attorney questions about some retirement accounts in my ex's name thus cluing the attorney in on what arguments to use to get my ex excused from the penalties he should have endured for not reporting them on his financial agreement.
In Kathi Sorrentino's case, the judge intervened extensively and simply elicited the testimony he wanted to get out of Mr. Sorrentino, rather that leaving it up to the attorneys to argue to argue their case. If you have the judge inserting evidence into the case of his own volition, and disregarding his role as neutral decision maker, how can you possibly believe that you have a fair trial.
Direct Personal Attacks:
Then there are the direct personal attacks on the self-represented litigant's character which are the most difficult to take and are a matter of course when a self-represented party is involved in a hearing. For instance, there is the interchange between Judge Corinne Klatt and Kathi when Judge Klatt makes fun of her for not knowing the meaning of the word "filibuster":
Judge Klatt: This is not let's ramble on because, really, that's all you're doing. Are you familiar with what a filibuster is? Ma'am, are you?
Kathi: No. No.
Judge Klatt: You're not? Not at all?
Kathi: No.
Judge Klatt: You're a college graduate, aren't you? Or I know you're enrolled in college...
Kathi: English and Studio Art major.
Judge Klatt: All right.
Kathi: And I'm in school now for...
Judge Klatt: All right.
Kathi: and Education major.
Judge Klatt: And you don't know what a filibuster is?
Kathi: No. Not off the...
Judge Klatt: That's where somebody keeps talking just to stretch things out without really getting to the point of the issues at hand and which is what I think you're doing to me here.
There is something inherently wrong when a Judge of the superior court thinks it is acceptable to make fun of a self represented party for not knowing the meaning of a word.
Condemnation for being intelligent:
With women who are representing themselves, there inevitably comes a point where the Judge will comment on how intelligent you are. I personally know several women this has happened to. This occurs because in these cases of abuse, the Family Court racketeers particularly choose women who are intelligent because the misogynist court system, I believe, is immensely gleeful to have the opportunity to humiliate and demean intelligent women.
Also, they are aware that bright women are very likely to fight long and hard for their children, so this means more money for everyone all around.
In Kathi's case, as with so many others, Judge Corinne Klatt's commentary on Kathi's intelligence is predictably interlaced with insult as follows:
Kathi: I'm confused, your honor.
Judge Klatt: Ma'am, you know what, Ma'am? It is my obligation to assess the credibility of witnesses and I don't think you're in the least bit confused. You're a bright, intelligent woman that has thoroughly prepared for this hearing and I think you're deliberately presenting to the Court in a fashion that makes you--that you're attempting to tell the Court or imply to the Court that you're confused. I am not believing you in that regard."
But then after celebrating Kathi's intelligence, albeit in a very abusive manner, Judge Klatt tries to insult that intelligence by pretending that the entire court proceeding is not a direct attack on Kathi in the following interchange:
Kathi: What I'm sensing and I'm hearing is that--that this is about me being accused of [being] an alienator and not complying with Court orders and I'm doing what I can to show that I am.
Judge Klatt: Well, I hesitate to accuse, ma'am. That's -- it's an affliction. It is not -- it is not a crime we're accusing you of.
Right, it's a mental illness not a crime, as if that matters, because the outcome for Kathi will be the devastating loss of custody of her child. So is Judge Klatt trying to say that Kathi shouldn't worry about it? How irrational is that?
Increasing the noise level to drown out the truth:
The bottom line is that whenever Kathi Sorrentino succeeded in making powerful points in her defense, which was actually quite frequently, Judge Klatt would find a frivolous reason to strike that testimony from the record. In addition, if Kathi was pursuing a successful line of questioning that proved that she was innocent of wrongdoing, inevitably Judge Klatt would allow the opposing attorney to jump up and down with irrelevant objections and commentary, or else she herself would interject discouraging remarks and observations.
While for the better part, Kathi was able to make her points nonetheless, I recall being completely sidelined by those kinds of distracting techniques in my day.
The represented party can do no wrong:
Meanwhile, the represented party pretty much gets away with anything he wants. He can provide extensive hearsay testimony, make unsupported and outrageous statements without being required to provide the slightest bit of evidence. He can refuse to answer the questions or answer them with outright lies and get away with it. In other words, for the person who has an attorney to advocate on his behalf, hearings like this are a breeze.
For instance, at one point while examining Mr. Sorrentino on the stand, Kathi Sorrentino was able to point out that he had no evidentiary basis for his accusations. Immediately, Judge Corinne Klatt rushed to his rescue stating, "Well, ma'am, to be quite frank, that -- those comments are stricken. You want to know why? Because I am the one who determines credibility, not you."
A hearing solely for show:
What this adds up to is that Kathi Sorrentino's hearing on May 23, 2014 was simply for show, a casual bow to the legal requirement that the Court allow a citizen a hearing before depriving her of her constitutional right to parent. The outcome of this hearing was already predetermined.
But yes, given the fact that legal techniques and procedures are geared to expose the truth, it does take the active intervention of the Judge to subvert the proceedings and conclude with an entirely unjust final judgment as happened in this case.
Many of the self-represented parties who undergo this trial by outright wrongdoing by a judge talk about how exhausted they feel afterwards. They are exhausted by the direct personal attacks and exhausted by the constant perversion of the truth. It can feel as though you are an exhausted boxer staggering around the ring flailing back at punches that appear to come out from all sides.
There is nothing fair or just about such proceedings. The fact that Connecticut Family Courts conduct such show trials is a disgrace. With the passage of last years Bill #494 and with the upcoming Bill #5505, there is hope that we can correct these kinds of abuses.