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Showing posts with label BOOK REVIEW. Show all posts
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Wednesday, October 1, 2025

RICH COHEN'S "DOLLHOUSE" ABOUT JENNIFER DULOS FULL OF ERROR!

I was in my favorite place--Barnes & Noble--and saw a table display of "Murder in the Dollhouse: The Jennifer Dulos Story" by Rich Cohen.  Naturally, this interested me for the blog since the Jennifer Dulos story is the paradigm for all the criticisms that I've had about the Family Court System which have been discussed on the 1800 or more blogs on this website. So--what do I think of this book.  I think it is beautifully written in some remarkable ways--its language can be absolutely rhapsodic.  It explains Jennifer Dulos' family, Jewish background, and fabulously wealthy New York upbringing with remarkable insight and detail. 

More specifically, it delineates exactly the nature of Jennifer's husband, Fotis Dulos, abuse and how he became capable of murder in deft literary strokes that catapult you towards the dramatic finish seemingly without effort.  On the other hand, Rich Cohen, who says he lives in Connecticut, doesn't seem to know Connecticut, and gets substantial details wrong when he talks about it.  As a result, as you read this book and see major factual errors, you can't help wondering--what else might be incorrect?

What do I mean by this?  Well, let's take a look at three pages--pages 88, 89, and 90.  Let's start with page 88.  Here Rich Cohen gives a description of Canton, CT where Jennifer Dulos went after she married Fotis Dulos, moving into 10 Sunrise Drive.  As luck would have it, that's not very far from where I used to live for 26 years so I'm quite familiar with the territory. I know exactly when Mr. Cohen gets his facts wrong.  First, he calls Canton "poor" which is simply not true.  Canton is just small, but has an equivalent range of social classes and opportunities as the surrounding towns of Avon, Farmington, Burlington and Simsbury. He states that Canton "is filled with people who dreamed of living...in Farmington, ten miles southeast." Perhaps, but for a much simpler, unexpected reason than he might have thought of. Lots of people in Canton, Avon, and Simsbury want to live in Farmington, because it charges half the taxes of the surrounding towns due to its strong business base. Surrounding towns have a tax base which is largely residential.  Out of all these towns, Simsbury is the one with the most social cache, if that's what Rich Cohen is trying to imply.  

But let's not stop here. There are more inaccuracies.

Rich Cohen says that, "there were neither playwrights nor theatrical productions in Canton in 2004."  This simply isn't true.  There is a theater right in the downtown area of nearby Collinsville and local theater people have put on performances there for years.  A quick internet search provides the following information, "While a comprehensive list of every production isn't available, the Farmington Valley Community Theatre (FVCT) a community theater group that services Canton and Surrounding towns, performed several shows in 2004, including the musical "Anything Goes" and the play "The Curious Savage."  

Over and above that, there are numerous opportunities in the area for those interested in theater, musicals, and even Opera.  There is the Simsbury light Opera Company nearby.  Local adults and children are free to audition for parts in any of their productions.  Furthermore, one of the reasons that I moved to Canton, CT, as opposed to the other towns I've mentioned, is because it is well known as a town that attracts artists and writers. It has a bit of a Greenwich Village funky feel to it.  For instance, there is the Gallery on the Green in the center of town that regularly features local artists.  In addition, at the time when Jennifer lived there (it no longer exists now) there was a Writer's Collective in town that regularly published books including the work of local authors and sponsored public readings. I myself led a few writer's groups while I lived in the town. So to characterize Canton or even the local area as uncultured is simply untrue.  But let's not stop here.  There are more inaccuracies.

Rich Cohen speaks about the Canton High School Cougars high school football team.  There has never been a Canton High School football team called the Cougars.  The Canton High School Football team was called the Warriors until 2022 when it was decided the name was an insult to Native Americans and the team name was changed to the Cobras.  So I'm not sure where Rich got his information from.  

Further, Canton is a small town with a combined middle/high school which means that for decades its graduating high school class was somewhere around 100 more or less.  This means that for the better part it hasn't had enough students to put together a football team.  A google search provides me with the following information, "Canton High School in Connecticut had a football program from 1900 to 1963, then reintroduced it in the 2007 season, nearly 40 years after it was first dropped due to lack of players.  The decision to restore the team was made in the fall of 2006 with the first game played in September of that year.  Even if the game was restored in 2006, it took years to build the team so that it could actually be even a minimal contender on the field.  Meanwhile, as I recall, since I lived there and had three kids, it wasn't football that enjoyed the focus of high school parents and children, it was soccer.  Soccer was big.  How did Rich Cohen not find this out?  All he had to do was ask!

Moving on to page 89, Mr. Cohen seems to have entirely overlooked the fact that Canton is made up of two separate towns combined under one government--i.e. Canton and Collinsville.  As an aside, Canton and Collinsville also share some aspects of town services with Avon, CT.  It's complicated.  Be that as it may, what Rich Cohen proceeds to do is to provide a description of the architecture of Canton as well as its history which is actually that of Collinsville and not that of Canton.  It may surprise Rich Cohen to hear this, but Collinsville has not been subsumed under the name of Canton and is very much its own place as any townsperson could tell him.  All he has to do is pick up the phone to find out.  So when he says Main Street is the road at the center of the town of Canton, he is wrong.  Main Street is the road that goes through the center of town in Collinsville.  Route 44 or Albany Avenue goes through the center of town in Canton.  When Mr. Cohen says, "Canton was once a manufacturing town known for mass-producing axes..." he is wrong.  Collinsville has the axe factory.  Again, a quick phone call or a google search would clarify that point.

On page 90, we again have more distortions and misinformation.  He describes the home where Jennifer Dulos lived with Fotis Dulos--10 Sunrise Drive--as "perched on the lip of a ravine.  One wrong step and it's goodbye."  I drove by that house pretty much every day for that last 26 years and just between you and me that house isn't going anywhere.  It's right at the bottom of the hill and you have to drive downwards to get to it. Further, Mr. Cohen describes the surrounding neighborhood as infested with houses which are "dilapidated" and "ramshackle".  This is simply ludicrous.  I'd really like to see a $400,000 house that is dilapidated and ramshackle.  The hills on Lovely Street which lead up to the Dulos home, the development further up the hill on Queens Peak and leading over to Kingswood in Avon are just about the highest end homes that the Farmington offers.  Far from being lived in by "misanthropes, nature lovers, and criminals on the lam", this area, and again I lived there, consists of corporate executives, judges, lawyer, doctors, successful business people and politicians.  Rich Cohen's comments about the area are just plain wrong

I don't want to keep on going here.  It seems as though my review is only touching upon a mere three pages of this book.  But what a three pages--riddled with error!  There are other inaccuracies I picked out in the book as well which I won't go into, but the one that troubled me the most was the mischaracterization of Hartford as a city overridden by drug gangs and criminals.  His last phrase describing Hartford says it looked "dark and smoky in the distance."  I don't know what day Mr. Cohen was driving around, but I've lived in the Hartford area for over 35 years and I've rarely found it anything but clear and metropolitan looking, except when you have a day of extreme weather which happens in a New England state.  Sure, Hartford has its struggles with poverty and homelessness.  At the same time, it is the insurance capitol of the world with a thriving nightlife.  So what is he honestly talking about?  I don't get it, or maybe I do and the issue of racism is not one I want to get into right now.  

Finally, Rich Cohen pretty much skips the entire family court reform movement which was extremely active in the years prior to Jennifer Dulos death.  There had been several hearings at the CT State Legislative Office building in Hartford where dozens of victims of family court injustice came to testify about the kinds of damaging and destructive processes were in play in family court.  Representative Minnie Gonzalez led the charge in advocating for the reform of the judicial system, starting with more rigorously vetting family court judges, and suggesting the elimination of the controversial Guardian ad Litem (GAL) system which Jennifer Dulos encountered.  

Why doesn't Mr. Cohen mention any of this in any way whatsoever?  

Jennifer Dulos death was culmination of many atrocities which had been committed in family court system immediately prior.  Mr. Cohen talks about the law protecting women from the kind of coersive control Jennifer Dulos faced which was passed in the years after her death.  But again here he gets it wrong, referring to it as Jennifer's Law.  In fact, it was actually called Jennifers' law--the apostrophe after the "s"--because there was another Jennifer--Jennifer Magnano--who was also murdered by her ex-husband in cold blood when she tried to protect her children from his sexual abuse.  The family court system was in massive disarray before Jennifer Dulos arrived to face it, and it still is.  The fact that Rich Cohen doesn't make a single mention of this is simply remarkable.

I'm not saying don't read this book, because there are sections regarding Jennifer Dulos family, her life in New York, and the complex relationship she had with Fotis Dulos which I found extremely informative.  Anyone who wants to be expert on this subject matter definitely needs to read it.  I'd just say double check anything you read with other sources.

Friday, October 23, 2015

DOREEN LUDWIG, ACTIVIST AND AUTHOR OF THE NEW BOOK "MOTHERLESS AMERICA" SPEAKS OUT AGAINST THE WAR ON WOMEN IN OUR CORRUPT FAMILY COURT SYSTEMS!

When I first filed for divorce in 2007, I spoke to a few mental health counselors who listened to my story and then said they knew of other women who had gone through something similar. Those women eventually filed for divorce and lost everything they had, but at least they were free.  

I was lucky that I did not "lose everything I had" including my children, as so many abused women do, but clearly there is a large group of protective mothers out there who do.  This is the message of "Motherless America: Confronting Welfare's Fatherhood Custody Program by Doreen Ludwig, a well argued and cogently written book on the family court conspiracy to shift custody from fit mothers into the hands of abusive and often criminal fathers.  For an example of this kind of travesty occurring here in Connecticut, please review Anne Stevenson's article in "Communities Digital News" entitled "Connecticut Failure:  The Deadly Rebranding of Joshua Komisarjevsky" located at the following link:


The book "Motherless America" is divided into three sections, the first describing the author, Doreen Ludwig's personal experiences with the family court system, the second explaining how the massive influx of fatherhood initiative funding into the judicial systems through the country has led to a war on women where custody of children is transferred systematically from mothers to fathers.  This occurs particularly in cases of abuse where the children are used as weapons to extend the father's power and control beyond the divorce. The last section, Part 3, seeks solutions to this over two decade assault on the rights of women in family court. 

I was very familiar with Doreen Ludwig's description of the kinds of game playing that occurs in family court as a means to undermine the mother.  My own experiences in court and my experiences as a court watcher have confirmed that these scenarios occur repeatedly in family court.  Let me review just a few of the ones that Ms. Ludwig shares in her book.  

1. The custody evaluator in the case suppresses any information from witness testimony or written evidence that he or she doesn't like and simply writes it out of the evaluation.  The evaluator might even acknowledge that abuse occurred but understate it or indicate that it was an aberration not likely to happen again, and probably provoked by the mother's bad behavior.  

2.  The father's attorney will accuse the mother of a broad range of mental illnesses and demand a psychological evaluation.  Even though the mother was perfectly functional prior to filing for divorce, had no mental health diagnosis, and was widely respected as caretaker for her children, all of a sudden the expert appointed by the court will determine that the mother has a broad range of mental health illnesses.  Sometimes Judges will simply diagnose mental illness in a mother without bothering to obtain any kind of evaluation, particularly when it comes to parental alienation syndrome (PAS), a widely diagnosed condition that family court uses to deny mothers access to their children.  

3. In addition, attorneys representing mothers will frequently refuse to act in their clients' best interests and fail to defend them in court. They will urge them to agree to stipulations that are decidedly not in the mothers best interests and will, in the long run, cripple their ability to hold onto the custody of their children. 

4.  Fathers are usually given complete control of the marital assets and mothers only obtain support if these fathers agree to obey court orders requiring them to provide support to their ex wives and children.  If fathers refuse to provide that support, or randomize and withhold that support, Judges rarely hold them in contempt or order them to obey court orders.  

5.  Finally, there is simply a generalized atmosphere of lies and deceptions.  Father's attorneys regularly include a broad range of lies in their pleadings for which they are not held responsible.   Judges regularly refuse to admit into evidence documents and witness testimony that would support the mother's position and also refuse to allow mothers to cross examine witnesses or even see the evidence that is being used against them.  

6. One regular strategy father's attorneys use and judges allow is to submit a motion or level an accusation against a mother right at the beginning of a hearing without providing any advanced notice.  This is a fundamental violation of mothers' due process rights but it happens every day in courthouses across this country.  

I have listed a selection of these violations in my review of "Motherless America" because so many average folks are unaware of the incredible abuse that takes place in family court every day.  The advantage of Doreen Ludwig's book is that she goes into great detail regarding many of the fundamental violations of her rights which occurred during her divorce case in a clear cut and dispassionate matter.  Her book provides a very thorough and thought provoking clarification of exactly how a corrupt court system manipulates legal procedures and ignores the constitution in order to justify taking custody away from thousands of good mothers who have devoted their lives to their children and taken care of them since birth.  

In the course of undergoing these violations, Ms. Ludwig talks about how she approached the ACLU, the FBI, and her local Domestic Violence agency and yet none of these organizations which have been established to protect the rights of victims like her responded by reaching out to help her.  

As I have stated, Part II of the "Motherless America" explores the roots of the corruption of family court within the father's rights movement.  It begins with an analysis of how the family court system defines abuse.  

I can recall in my own case that when I mentioned that I was being abused, the Guardian Ad Litem in my case stated, "They all claim abuse."  In saying this, she was simply mirroring a family court system that has long maintained a policy of denying the existence of abuse.  

As Doreen Ludwig explains, they do this by narrowly limiting the definition of abuse to situations where a woman has been beaten or murdered.  As soon as a woman fights back, the legal system no longer considers that this woman has been abused any longer.  Further, the legal system doesn't include coercive control as part of abuse which opens the door to abusers continuing to pursue their victims using the court system as a means to do so and ultimately exacting revenge by taking custody from these mothers.  

Ms. Ludwig accuses those in the field of domestic violence of colluding to minimize and explain away the effects of domestic violence.  As she explains, the very organizations that are supposed to be defending women and assisting in protecting them from domestic violence are the ones that are making the situation worse.  In her words, "The DV community is well aware of this problem [custody switching from mother to father], yet for the most part, they have bowed to the fatherhood custody mandate. The DV community has not organized legislative awareness campaigns, they have not used their influence to generate a media spotlight, nor have they organized qualified legal opponents to represent battered mothers.  When battered mothers stuck in abusive litigation call for help, they are routinely shunned; the government-supported DV community tells them "We have no money to help."  

In addition, Doreen Ludwig points out that situations where there is Domestic Violence are often designated as "high conflict" which is a way of implying that the abuse is mutual.  This means that all sorts of mediators, custody evaluators, mental health professionals can become involved in these cases and they soon become quite profitable for the professionals involved.  This is where trade associations such as the AFCC become involved and maximize the profit that everyone makes by encouraging its members to recommend and hire one another for the various jobs that emerge as long as they continue to perpetuate the conflict and harass the mother.  

Doreen Ludwig provides even more detail on how these professionals carry out their custody switching schemes in Chapter 10 entitled "The Players and Their Methods."  This particular chapter is a must read.  

Ultimately, what all these professionals have in common is their commitment to the interests of the fathers and the belief that any woman who does not behave subserviently towards her ex husband ought to be punished.  

Doreen Ludwig locates the basis for this power imbalance in family court in the right wing religious backlash against women which fostered the belief that poverty arises not from a lack of economic opportunity but simply because there are too many single mothers.  Instead of seeing poverty as the central concern, this social movement has defined the problem as fatherlessness.  

As a result, starting in 1996, this led the government to shift its support from helping women get jobs, food, and shelter to marriage promotion programs and fatherhood support and access programs which provide economic support to fathers seeking to obtain custody from mothers.  

The end result, according to Doreen Ludwig, is that the only thing that matters to family court is how to keep fathers in the lives of their children no matter how abusive they are.  As she puts it "Judges are trained to put fatherhood above safety, security and stability.  If a father files for custody, he will almost certainly receive as much as he wants no matter what his character.  Alcoholics, drug addicts, abusers, criminals [who are fathers] are preferable parents to mothers."  

This is a world that seems to have been turned onto its head!  

Doreen Ludwig does an excellent job, particularly  in Chapter 9 of her book explaining the history of the war against women and digging up information on the sources of the fatherhood funding that the government is using to support the interests of men over women.  The amount of money being funneled into these fatherhood programs is phenomenal and rises to the the level of millions and millions of dollars, approximately $22 million per year going to Connecticut alone.  This money is distributed through block grants and matching funds and is often funneled through religious organizations.    

Part 3 of Doreen Ludwig's book is on the shorter side but touches upon the more recent developments in terms of seeking solutions to the brokenness of our family court system here in America.  One important point she does make is that it is the responsibility of government to address the problem of a judicial system that has massively gone astray.  The bottom line is the judicial system in this country must be held accountable and must obey the law that it is sworn to enforce.  

Doreen Ludwig has some thoughts on how this can be done and those are all worth reading and expanding upon.  

Ultimately, Doreen Ludwig's book is very timely.  The family court reform movement has spoken widely of the abuse of the massive amounts of federal funding but Ms. Ludwig is the first to codify where these funds are coming from and where they are going.  She is the first to encapsulate the extraordinary story of the multiple layers of corruption and deception that overlie our family court system and that undercut and destroy the lives of protective mothers and their children every day.  

Advocates who are working with their state legislators, investigative journalists, and ethical legal and mental health professionals to reform the system for the better and to expose its current abuses should all be fully informed of the contents of this book.  

Ms. Doreen Ludwig has founded Mothers Against Court Custody Abuse in order to fight back against family court corruption and educate people regarding the misuse of fatherhood funds.  For further information on her work in association with this organization, please go to the website at:  www.MACCAbuse.org.

To order a copy of Doreen Ludwig's "Motherless America:  Confronting Welfare's Fatherhood Custody Program", please click on the link below:

http://www.amazon.com/Motherless-America-Confronting-Welfares-Fatherhood/dp/1515256219/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1445611339&sr=1-1&keywords=doreen+ludwig

Monday, November 11, 2013

PHYLLIS CHESLER RECOMMENDS...!

Disappearing Act: A Mother’s Journey to the Underground
In 1986, Sharon Murphy’s friends flew her to NYC to attend the first-ever Speak Out on Mothers Losing Custody of Children which I co-organized. She did so just before she had to serve a jail sentence for having kidnapped her son from his violent father, who also happened to be Maya Angelou’s son. Over the years, Sharon tried to publish articles about her experience in the mainstream media and in women’s magazines. The article were always rejected. No one wanted to go up against Maya Angelou or be perceived as racists. Now, Sharon has told her story and told it beautifully. She currently lives on the same block as her now-adult son and is the grandmother of two. As we all know, her story is not unique although the path she chose required bravery, determination, and fierce mother-love. Here is the link to purchasing her book.
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http://www.amazon.com/Disappearing-Act-Mothers-Journey-Underground/dp/1490523448/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1382219058&sr=8-1&keywords=Disappearing+act+by+sharon+murphy