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Tuesday, May 2, 2017

WHAT HAPPENS WHEN YOU EMPOWER A BULLY: THE TRAGEDY OF MATHEW COULOUTE!

There are few cases that present the spectacle of the foolishness of family court here in CT quite as effectively as the Mathew Couloute versus Lauren Haiden versus Stacey Blitsch cases.  

Mathew Couloute, for those who are interested, is a native son, born and raised here in CT and said to be an associate of Gov. Dan Malloy.  An attorney and formerly a state prosecutor, Mr. Couloute is a talented, intelligent, capable if not brilliant professional with some unfortunately fatal character flaws, one being an inability to maintain a steady and law abiding career path, and the other, a complete inability to maintain a decent and courteous relationship with the mothers of his two children currently aged 11 and 5.  

These flaws have led to constant moves from state to state, several career changes, and more recently extensive and complicated litigation in CT Family Court including several custody evaluations conducted in Family Relations at both Hartford, CT and New Milford, CT, not to mention additional proceedings in other states, i.e. Florida, Georgia, and New York.  

For those of you who are interested in knowing what this case all comes down to in a nutshell, I'd say it all comes down to character.  It's so obvious, it flies right into your face and smacks you on both cheeks.  

Now, I am not saying that the two ladies involved in this case--Lauren and Stacey--are so fabulous, because no they are not.  They have gotten on my nerves many times.  

Of course, all that adds up to is a bit of irritation.  

On the other hand, Mathew Couloute?  Here is a man who has demonstrated well into his forties that he is completely incapable of maintaining a relationship with a woman for any notable period of time.  For his entire life up to this point, he has simply bounced from relationship to relationship to relationship.  Any time it gets tough for him, he just leaves and goes on to the next one.  

Of course, co-parenting children with the mothers of the children he left behind requires a little bit more "stick to it iveness" than Mr. Couloutte has been able to demonstrate thus far.  

So where is family relations on this point?  

What is interesting, of course, is that during all the family relations evaluations and court hearings that have taken place in this case, no one has actually focused in on this point, which is, of course, the most important point--the fact that Mathew Couloute is not capable of a mature, adult, respectful relationship with a woman on a long term basis.  

Furthermore, on Mr. Couloute's part, there has been a lot of demonization of his ex partners, but no specific demonstration of any intent to work with them to raise their children.  

For instance, I read Mathew Couloute's recent motions to the CT Family Court for sole custody where he goes into detail regarding his layman's understanding of Lauren Haiden's mental health condition.  What he fails to mention is that, not only has he demonstrated his severely compromised mental health condition by his manner of living his life, which is pretty obvious to anyone, but also he does have his very own record of mental health problems which, since he is a highly capable and knowledgeable attorney, he has been able to suppress from the record in the case. 

Unfortunately, this has been a big problem, i.e. the way in which Mathew Couloute has been able to play around with how the Court understands his case.  

For instance,  in the year leading up to his divorce from Lauren Haiden in 2015, he was supposed to be in therapy with a master's degree psychotherapist who was supposed to assist him in communicating more effectively with his ex wife.  In the months leading up to trial, this therapist stated that Mathew Couloute had been highly successful in his therapy and that the work they'd done together was a big success.  

But how could that therapy possibly be a success if Mr. Couloute failed to demonstrate in his life any concrete indication of improvement in his ability to communicate with the mothers of his children.  In fact, the emails sent back and forth during that timeframe, many of which were provided to the custody evaluator, demonstrate clearly the fact that Mathew Coulloute speaks to the mothers of his children in a mean, vicious, cruel, and unkind manner and is, at this time, incapable of coparenting because, so far, no one has required him to.  

Witnesses who have heard Mathew Couloute rant and rave on the phone to the mothers of his children have also stated that he is both frightening and abusive towards them.  

So far the Family Court in CT and its family relations department have maintained the position in regard to Mathew Couloute that whatever he wants to do he can do.  

For instance, it appears that up to this point Mr. Couloute has placed his son of 11 years old in 9 separate schools, almost one for each year of his life.  Is anyone going to object to that?  Several credible studies have linked school changes to serious psychiatric difficulties in children.  See link:

http://time.com/8854/study-switching-schools-may-make-your-kids-psychotic/

Anyone with a fundamental understanding of child well being should.  

Then there is the fact that when his son was four, Mr. Couloute was able to wrest custody from the mother who had been taking primary care of the child up to that point.  You'd think he would then spend more time with the child.  But no.  Instead, he continued on with full time work and gave responsibility for the care of the child to his brand new 22 year old girlfriend.  

Just in case you are wondering, I have met the boy's mother, Stacey, and she is a wonderful person, clearly perfectly responsible and capable of taking care of her child.  In fact, the court pretty much said that at the time, prior to irrationally giving the child away to the father.  

Anyway, not to take up your whole day with this, although there is so much more to say.  

Right now this case is being wrangled between the State of CT and the State of NY and I receive frequent updates on the progress of the case.  

Apparently, what led to this debacle is that after the divorce, Mathew Couloute failed to pay any court ordered child support for a year, and then last Fall 2016 he moved to Georgia, established residence, and enrolled his son in a private school.  

After a few months, given that Mr. Couloute was no longer in the State of CT, Lauren Haiden gave a notice to the court that she was leaving the state temporarily because she had no money or a place to stay.  Her father came and picked her up, along with their little girl, and they moved away to Buffalo, NY.  

She then filed for sole custody in New York state even though the State of CT has jurisdiction. Now that seems foolish to me, but that's because I've been hanging around court systems for so long.  Given that Lauren Haiden is a non-attorney, and unfamiliar with the Court, her actions should be understood as simply a product of convenience and not ill intended.

Nonetheless, in response, instead of attempting to work the situation out, Mathew Couloute returned to Connecticut from Georgia and filed a police report claiming that Lauren had fled the state with the child and that he was concerned about the child's wellbeing, blah blah.  As a result, he was able to get her arrested.   Of course, he knew she hadn't fled anywhere, but you know, if you can get away with shit, why not try?  I guess that's what he thought, and he was right.  The CT Family Court system was only too willing to snatch up the bait.

Anyway, so here we have more legal drama, more dysfunction, more hoopla, and who suffers here?  The kids, you've got it.  

The problem, as I see it, is where you give a fairly unwise and unstable individual complete authority and the ability to get away with any nonsense, while leaving the other parent helpless in the face of bad decision making and interpersonal bullying.  

What is necessary for post-divorce tranquility is that there is proper cooperation combined with an equal balance of power between the parents in order to promote an atmosphere the children can thrive in.  When you empower a bully, as the CT Judicial Branch seems readily prepared to do with this family, the spreading ripples of pain and destruction for this generation and the next are endless, and virtually unstoppable in the absence of common sense.  

Would it be possible to order therapy for the parties based upon actual facts rather than Mr. Couloute's fantasies or the highly edited statements of mental health professionals who are so low on the professional totem pole they are vulnerable to coercion?

This statement here is not my standard approach to writing a blog.  Usually, I like to have all my facts lined up in advance, and I only speak when I have everything perfectly prepared.  But it seems we have an emergency, so I'm speaking up now while the CT Family Court system has time to correct its mistakes and resolve this matter in a way that benefits the children.  I don't want it later said that I stood witness to this travesty and said nothing against it.  

This is what I have to say to CT Family Court.  It is time to stop the nonsense, to stop the politicking and grandstanding, and stop the hyperbole and do what is right for everyone concerned in this case, particularly the children.  For the better part, this includes putting the brakes on Mathew Couloute's bullying.  Enough already. 

38 comments:

  1. Missed the point completely. This is another Connecticut pedo ring case. Two kids are play toys of the pedos. Daddy moves to Georgia, puts son in private school in the woods. Still pays no child support for daughter. Gets a K9 police officer to get a felony interstate arrest warrant for mom to get the play toy daughter back under ring control. Plan backfires, New York State seizes the kid.....oops.

    But don't worry, Connecticut pedos are working through New York pedos and the judge will return the kid to Connecticut soon after vilifying the mother as pedos always do. Just watch, Judge Sharon LoVallo is on the pedo payroll.

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  2. It wasn't the mother (Haidon) that filed for sole custody, she filed for order of protection because of the history of DV, and asked NY to take jurisdiction. Even after couloute moved to Georgia, the mother continued to offer couloute visitation in NY. Couloute refused. He then filed for sole custody in Hartford (faxing in from Georgia with forged signatures). When mom went and obtained protective order, couloute ran to his pals in Bloomfield to get her arrested on a fraudulent complaint, looking to back door family court. That's when his pals in Bloomfield hunted Haidon down with an extradition warrant and told Haidon she must turn the child over to Couloute. See what's going on here? Let's put mom in jail and avoid the issues in family court completely. Haidon was arrested based on completely false allegations, no investigation, and apparently Bloomfield police now has control over civil cases and can police family court. Complete violation of Haidon's rights and yet another example of corruption in Connecticut to strip a mother desperately trying to protect her child and herself from an abuser. But alas, let's enable and reward the abuser who is part of the system. Couloute has been abusing both mothers of his children through the legal system for years. And if Haidon is so unfit, why wait until the child is 5 years old to file for sole custody? Not a dime of support. Left homeless repeatedly. Couloute has assistance from Attorney Ryan McGuigan and his political pals. The writing is on the wall, but continues to be ignored courtesy of the Connecticut "judicial" system and the corrupt players like couloute, Mcguigan, jack Whalen, Dan malloy, Ceil Gersten, mike Budlong, Anne dranginis, Brendan danaher, Bloomfield police, Joette Katz, etc.

    Couloute has a son enrolled in school in Georgia, not in a boarding school with a sticker price of $17k a year; ironically he can't support his other child. One must ask, where is Couloute's domicile? Not Connecticut.

    Why is couloute such a valuable player in this circus? What is he part of or what does he know? Because the cover ups are not simply because he's an attorney. They are far deeper than that.

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    1. Haven't the bogus criminal charges been dismissed yet?

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    2. Of course not. Couloute has been sending Investigator Miele and Hartford prosecutor letters saying that he wants the mother (Haidon) prosecuted to the fullest and incarcerated (for a crime she didn't commit). Hartford knows case is bogus, but continues to abuse mother through the "process". Couloute agreed to haidon leaving after he fled to Georgia. He just didn't want visitation in New York because his mafia is in Connecticut. Couloute uses child as pawn to abuse mother and use as gps locator. When he doesn't get his way, mom must go to jail.

      Obviously his buddy McGuigan has dirty hands in this one. McGuigan has been hunting haidon since 2015 trying to protect his pal couloute. Silence the abused.

      The truth needs to be exposed as to Couloute's lies, and the system assisting him in trying to steal the child to take off to Georgia. Obviously if he can put mom in jail he'd automatically be able to take child and head south to Georgia without the trouble of family court.

      Couloute wants haidon completely out of the picture just as he threatened to kill his sons mother. Pattern of behavior.

      Next court date is 6/5 for criminal court.

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  3. Judge Dewey is in on the scam. She even stated from the bench that she does not care how far mom has to travel to come back to court in Connecticut for further illegal abuse. The courts will abuse this battered mother until she gives up the kid to the pedo ring. Dewey is a pedo player.

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  4. NEWSFLASH: Judge LoVallo vacated the TRO against Matthew Couloute without motion, evidence, testimony. Last time a judge vacated a restraining order a kid went splash in the river. Now Georgia child protective services has opened an abuse investigation into Couloute regarding his son. But Judge LoVallo orders the daughter to visit with Couloute for a week starting Saturday. Will this be Connecticut's Baby Aden II?

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    1. She vacated the protective order put in place by another judge, before the date it was to expire. So let's give the abusive father the "OK" from the court to abuse, harass, stalk, etc. WHY?

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  5. Lovallo is a known "fathers rights" player. All arranged by Couloute, Mcguigan, and Connecticut.

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  6. Mcguigan's old man and Blumenthal have pedo connections dating back to the 80s. Wake up here people.

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    1. When retired Judge Annie Drainginis shows up to defend Couloute, threatens everyone with lawsuits, she is really protecting Ryan McQuigan, as Annie was a partner in daddy pedo McQuigan's law firm....Rome McQuigan....just need a pedo play card to connect the dots of all the child predators and their protectors in Connecticut Pedo Utopia.

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  7. https://familycourtcircusblog.wordpress.com/2017/05/05/judge-omar-a-williams/?frame-nonce=783dfbaf4f

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  8. NEWSFLASH: Couloute is picking up his daughter this Saturday, keeps her for a week of visitation in Connecticut under supervision of Couloute's 82 year old mother. Couloute is driving from Atlanta to Bloomfield, picks up grandma, then drives to Buffalo to pick up kid, then back to Bloomfield. All that gas money and tolls, but he can't pay a dime in child support and the judges don't care.
    Will the daughter survive the week or will this end with a splash like Baby Aaden? Stay tuned. Family Court is never about happy endings.

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    1. I feel sorry for the Grandma who has to watch this nonsense unfold. She has been enduring this situation with her son now for years. You would think she could have some peace in her old age. Instead, she has this disgrace of a son she has to babysit through his life.

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    2. So what is going on with the son while Mr. Couloute is up in CT? This is not school vacation time--so the son is by himself in Florida? And what about earning a living? Is Mr. Couloute taking his work with him? What a travesty!

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    3. Sorry Georgia.

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    4. When Couloute pretends to live in Connecticut he leaves his son in the care of Andy and Amber Bashkin, two shady characters who relocated from Connecticut to Georgia for dubious reason. Child trafficking takes a village.

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  9. NEWSFLASH: Matthew Couloute picked up his daughter/toy today for a week of supervised visitation under the watchful eye of DCF approved 82 year old mother. Dad has not talked to daughter in over ten days, but dutifully shows up over three hours late to pick up his cherished play toy.

    Connecticut resident Matthew Couloute drives a Caddy with Georgia dealer plates, holding a CT driver's license....strange.

    Wonder why CT DCF is not co-operating with the New York child abuse investigation?

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  10. The question remains, why does the CT Family Court allow an attorney, because let me remind you that this is what Mathew Couloute is, to file false allegations that his ex wife fled the State of CT. The next question is, once the State of CT had the opportunity to determine those allegations were false, why weren't those criminal charges dropped? Why is it considered acceptable for Mathew Couloute, who appears to have ample funds, to get away with not paying child support? Why is it that when there is detailed documentation that Mathew Couloute is verbally abusive to the mothers of his children, does CT Family Court, let alone NY Court do nothing to address the problem? This man seems to have been given a free rein to bully, abuse, and physically attack the mother's of his children. Don't forget that Mr. Couloute was charged with domestic violence, but he was able to evade that charge on a minor technicality. How come the Family Court system and the Criminal Court system seem to allow this man to simply get away with any of his actions, no matter how harmful they are to his children. With all the special favors he has received, with all the inducements and advancements he's received on so many fronts, why is he still such an unmitigated failure, moving from state to state, getting and losing jobs, and hanging on by a thread. Why is such an unstable and impulsive individual granted such extensive access to his children without therapy, without guidance, and without any kind of accountability. Talking about what the public might want to know, these are areas where the pubic would certainly like some kind of credible explanation. So far, there hasn't been one.

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    1. Pedos are protected by the RING in Connecticut. Judges, cops, DCF, prosecutors, all paid to traffick kids, silence mothers. It is Connecticut Pedo Utopia. Child screams cannot be heard in Connecticut. Everything about state government is deviant. Children just living in a horror show. Feds protect it all under the deviant watch of Deirdre Daly and her lesbo pals at FBI along with dyke judges in federal court. In other words, the kid is fucked....or will soon be fucked.

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    2. I don't really like the language you put this in, and I do not join you in this blanket condemnation of homosexuals because I don't think any particular sexual orientation has presented themselves particularly well here. However, the overall observation that you are making that this state allows abusers to continue their abuse in an ongoing manner, that there are individuals who feel gleeful and triumphant at oppressing women and act on the basis of that in the exercise of their power, this I do not doubt.

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    3. Funny how you equate deviants with homosexuals....your choice. Deviants traffick kids. Deviant mentally. What Deirdre Daly does with other parts of her body are irrelevant. But what Ryan McQuigan, Matthew Couloute, Omar Williams, K9 Danaher, Gov. Malloy do with their appendages is of grave public concern when it comes to kids.

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  11. What kind of pig refers to a child as a "play toy" in any context? Have some decorum.

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    1. It isn't about decorum. There is a genuine concern that in many of these extended cases where children have been seized without cause that the reason is that the offending parent is sexually abusing the children or making the child available for human trafficking. There is great concern among advocates that the CT legal system and the culture in CT as a whole condones and facilitates child sexual abuse. This issue has been raised in the Couloute case. I don't want to get into it because it is such a complex issue and there are many others to address, but that is why it has been spoken of in commentary on this particular blog. No abuse has been verified as of this time, but it has been mentioned.

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    2. Play Toy? Does one have a better term for the victims of child trafficking and sexual exploitation under protective supervision of key public officials of Connecticut? Why not ask Deirdre Daly, Elizabeth Bozzuto, Gerard Adelman, Kevin Kane, Carl Ajello, Brendan Danaher, Paul Hammick, Gail Hardy, Julia Dewey, Joette Katz what they call a five year old child used for the perverse entertainment of demented male attorneys?

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    3. How about "alleged child victim" since there has been no proof of such so far as per comment below. Only soneone who gets pleasure from using a term like that would do so. Certainly not someone who has empathy, children or GRANDCHILDREN themselves.

      Continuing to project victimization only creates victims where there are none. Just look at our society as a whole.

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    4. I think that the problem is that the atmosphere in CT where child sexual abuse has been covered up and facilitated for years is that people feel very frustrated and then use those kinds of terms. Are you claiming that child sexual abuse does not occur, because it appears as if that's what you are claiming. I think, personally, that there is a lot of discussion of victimization such as child sexual abuse and rape because our society still does not do anything to punish perpetrators and allows them to get away scott free. That's the real problem. Rapists get a slap on the wrist, and boys will be toys. Our President talks about snatching women's vagina's and huge swaths of our voter population thinks that acceptable. The problem is a culture of coverup of hypocrisy and of of lies. You talk about a lack of proof. Well, of course there is no proof when the State of CT family court and DCF do everything to obstruct any kind of valid investigation, and that is the problem across the board with child sexual abuse cases in CT.

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    5. I meant to say "boys will be boys"-- perhaps that was a Freudian slip. Anyway, there has been strong and constant speculation for years that there is a pedophile ring operating in CT using both DCF and the CT Family Court System as a means to snatch children. When you have a conversation going that will not go away, perhaps it is time to start asking why? Could there be some truth in it? This is particularly in the light of the fact of the collusion of the Institute of Living with the Catholic Priests scandal, and then the infiltration of psychiatrists from the scandal into the family court system where they then took on custody evaluations, often in cases of child sexual abuse and then vindicated alleged perpetrators. So it appears they took the game from one arena and transferred it into another. I think these concerns are worth a serious look..

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    6. Where is the link to the list of children that have been snatched? This is outrageous! How has everyone turned a blind eye as children disappear one-by-one? Were the parents of all these children paid off?

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    7. There is a list of family court cases where people have drawn this connection It isn't the parents who are at fault, since there is a very strong Coalition of parents fighting back against both family court and DCF. It is the AFCC that's been profiteering in connection to this situation. If you had read this blog you would be aware of this, as well as attorneys, judges, mental health professionals and judicial branch personnel. Naturally, if you had been reading this blog, you would also be familiar with the massive fatherhood funding to the tune of $46 million a year which also plays a role in this situation. I would recommend that you educate yourself by reading not only this blog but the suggested reading list which is posted under "books" on this blog.

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    8. Unfortunately I don't have the time available to read the endless amount of posts and comments on this blog. With the pointed allegations of child trafficking made of very specific government officials, I was sure there was a very specific list of children (even just maybe a few as an example) to point in the direction of something that everyone is so absolutely certain of. Instead I'm told I would already know if I had been up-to-date on the 1,000s of pages of reading I can piece together in my spare time. If you want support for such a serious issue, offer specific facts or links, not condescension.

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    9. I would definitely begin with the Wiegand v. Wilkerson case, and then move forward to the Sunny Kelly case Liberti v. Liberti. But this is not condescension. We are talking about a widespread problem that has plagued the State of Connecticut since the 1990s and even more so since 2000. The condescension is on your side for not bothering to do your homework and then sneering at all the hard work that advocates have invested in unearthing this information for a considerable period of time now. It is not easy to pull together sufficient research to author a book. And you come onto this website, having done nothing to attempt to understand this material previously and start calling it into question. You know lives are at stake here. This is not a game. It is also not an opportunity for measuring to see whose is bigger than mine. If you don't have time to learn the facts in regard to family court abuse and its inability to deal effectively with child sexual abuse cases perhaps this is not the place for you to be. Perhaps some other issue interests you more where you will put some effort into learning about it and I'm sure there are many out there.

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  12. How did Couloute teach that little girl? She knows far too much about adult male anatomy for a five year old. But for some reason, Couloute can't pay a dime in child support. Drives a Caddy, commutes between Atlanta, Hartford and Buffalo on the road, but no money for food for his daughter. Expensive private school for son, $17k a year, but not a dime for daughter. Very strange. But no judge has mentioned it, no social worker. Even Connecticut DCF refuses to respond to inquires by NY Social Services. Needless to say, Governor Malloy has interest in this kid.

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  13. https://familycourtcircusblog.wordpress.com/2017/05/07/deputy-dickhead-leonard-c-boyle/

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  14. Couloute up to his tricks. Has the kid in Connecticut for visitation under supervision of grandma. Now he is telling the world that he will not return the kid to New York on Saturday......the pedo ring of Connecticut wants to keep their toy. Which pedo judge of the superior court will issue the snatch and grab order? Bozzuto? Suarez? Williams? Dewey? Simone?

    Poor kid. This has no chance of a happy ending.

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  15. https://familycourtcircusblog.wordpress.com/2017/05/09/cancerous-mary-brigham/

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  16. NEWSFLASH: Mathew Couloute has discharged his NY attorney and will now, again, represent himself in the state neglect proceeding. Or maybe the attorney discharged his client. Drama continues.

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    1. It is my understanding that Mr. Couloute doesn't pay his attorneys. Does that continue to be true to your knowledge?

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    2. Take a look at Couloute's bankruptcy filing and you'll see his Family attorneys from Georgia and Florida on there. He surely didn't pay Gersten. Anne Dranginis was a personal gift from his pedo pal, Ryan McGuigan. And you can be sure he isn't paying anyone in New York. NEWSFLASH: we are dealing with a criminal. He doesn't pay anyone. How do you think his wife and daughter were always left homeless? BECAUSE HE DIDN"T PAY THE RENT. Take a look at all the grievances- he stole his clients money and didn't do a thing for them in court. Screwed them royally. But where's all that money? Poof into thin air. No bank account, no tax returns. Ryan McGuigan and the pedo clan to the rescue! His bankruptcy filing is public, I suggest you take a close look at that thing, not to mention all the assets he hid- oh an money in St. Lucia. But who cares about all that.

      Couloute thrives off drama. Typical Narcissist. However, he is dangerous. Do not let the drama fool you. This man is a danger to his children, to women and to society in general. He should not be allowed to walk the streets.

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