KEEPING YOUR LEGS SHUT TIGHT

I know, I know, Connecticut is a No-fault Divorce state, just the same as all the other fifty states.  

What do I mean by no-fault?  

The story is that originally, in order to get a divorce, you had to prove fault on the part of one or the other spouse.  This meant proving abuse or adultery or something like that.   In order to get a divorce, spouses would often invent stories so that they could get a divorce even though nothing had really happened.  They just didn't love each other any more.  

Finally, around the 1970s, the no-fault divorce concept began to spread throughout the country.  What the no-fault divorce did was allow couples to divorce simply on the basis of irreconcilable differences.  

The first law legalizing the no-fault divorce was passed in California in January 1970 and signed into law by then Governor Ronald Reagan. And from there it spread around the country.  The last state to sign it into law was New York State this year. 

Yes, I agree.  This is the modern world where everyone is having sex with everyone else.  You put on the TV and there are the most amazingly lewd situations on film at all times of the day and night.  The porn section of bookstores takes up several bookshelves.  

You would think that under the circumstances adultery wouldn't be such a big deal.  The news is, as far as divorce court is concerned you are wrong.  I would say that this particular point is quite shocking to many folks who end up in divorce court.  

Our culture is so casual about sex and when and where and how and with whom you have it that folks never consider that divorce court might look at their actions differently and actually condemn with the same level of condemnation you might ordinarily associate with some of the eminent Puritan preachers who founded our state several centuries ago. 

The fact is that the good majority of judges dealing with high conflict divorces are judge referees who are in their 70s and their morality was shaped by the forties and fifties.  So when you walk into their courtrooms and you have had an affair and they know you have had an affair, prepare for big time trouble. You are in for it and your attorney knows it. 

Now I've got to say I heard of one case where the husband accused the wife of adultery because she masturbated with herself.  No, this is not what I am talking about.  I'm talking about real sex with someone other than the person you are married to.

If there is the slightest possibility at this point that you could hide whatever affair you might be having with whomever, make sure you do it.  If you are currently not having an affair, keep your legs shut tight and stay that way until the divorce is over.  This has to be the best advice I can give you.  

In divorce court, the penalty for adultery is very severe financially and you could live the rest of your life in poverty if you don't handle the situation right.  

Trust me.  The flip side in your favor is that if your ex committed adultery, make sure you subpoena his baby doll to the trial so you can take full advantage of the situation.  Your ex, who hasn't read this article, will probably not even know what hit him.