A few years ago, I was bullied into agreeing to having a conflict manager in regard to custody. For this purpose, the Guardian Ad Litem suggested a few names of potential conflict managers,. It was hard for me to make a decision about them because I knew nothing about them. As a result, the attorney I had at the time recommended a certain person from the list the GAL gave me and I agreed to that person simply because I simply had no information on him or her.
Just for your information, if you are in a similar situation, on this blog, I have recommended going to a law library and looking names up on a search engine in order to get further information. Unfortunately, at the time I had to make my decision I didn't have that awareness and I only had my attorney to rely on.
Now, I am having a bit of a laugh because in the course of doing a search on google, I located the name of this Conflict Manager online as part of a panel presentation on the debunked theory of Parental Alienation Syndrome with a considerable number of other panel members I wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole.
My first question was, what was my so called attorney who was supposedly acting in my best interests thinking of? Was she out of her mind recommending this person as a conflict manager? No, I guess not, just sucking up to the status quo and making things look good for herself.
Anyway, for your information, let me give you the names of these folks, and just watch how I put this recommendation very carefully. If you are interested in promoting father's rights or need to have your father's rights protected, if you want to have the mother of your children out on the street and penniless while you get sole custody of the children you have abused, the following professionals would be the best people for you:
1. Dr. Donald Hiebel, Middletown, CT
2. Attorney Jeffrey D. Mickelson
3. Attorney Louis Kiefer
4. Dr. Kenneth S. Robson
5. Attorney Debra C. Ruel
6. Dr. Elizabeth S. Thayer (Of the Infamous so called P.E.A.C.E. Program)
And will someone please explain why Judge Edward J. Dolan was on this panel and why the Hartford County Bar Association was sponsoring it. Wonders will never cease!
"If you want to have the mother of your children out on the street and penniless while you get sole custody of the children you have abused, the following professionals would be the best people for you:
ReplyDelete1. Dr. Donald Hiebel, Middletown, CT"
Please, please share your experiences of Donald Hiebel! I have been ordered to take my daughters to this "Parental Alienation Specialist" whose title basically tells me that is what he is out to prove, and the GAL in this case has made crazy recommendations. Catharine, I tried desperately to find your contact info so we could have this conversation privately, but to no avail. If you have any information on how this guy works, I would appreciate it. Thank you for your time and for getting all of this extremely relevant info out there :)
My email address is on the top blue line to the right on this blog. Contact me right away. Absolutely do not agree to have anything to do with this dr. Hiebel. My email address is: Slopercathy@aol.com. I am so sorry to see that you are having this trouble. Definitely contact me.
ReplyDeletePlease be sure to take your children to a licensed family therapist not just a therapist. A family therapist understands family dynamics and knows how to treat. Do your homework before agreeing to a therapist.
ReplyDeleteThey have done studies on marriage and family therapists and found them inferior in their ability to resolve family issues. So don't jump on any band wagons. Be careful with any of these mental health providers and make sure you have someone reliable, because their findings are easily manipulated in trial court. Also, once a mental health provider realizes that he or she may be called to testify in trial court, their whole perspective changes, and they may sell you down the river. The Court will not respect an MFT as much as they will respect a psychologist or psychiatrist. So what you want is an MD or PHD who will be willing to go to trial court and support you on the record verbally, in writing, in his testimony in Court. Otherwise, forget it. Therapy will simply end up causing you and your children harm. That is just my opinion.
ReplyDeleteI also went to see Dr. Heibol for my conflict manager for my children who have an abusive father. He told me I could not do anything about it until something bad happened, then I would get full custody. I would NOT recommend him to anyone. I was informed today by my attorney that he has been accused of sleeping with one of his patients. He is also a married man. I would suggest Dr. Keith Roder, he has helped and is fair to both parties.
ReplyDeletenooooo, roeder is his co-conspirator. they are partners. dont be fooled!
DeleteI agree - don't use Hiebel's partner Dr. Roeder. He falls into the same category of not helping to resolve conflict.
DeleteWas this in the Hartford Courant as well? Disgusting. Next after rape! He should lose his license for good!!!
ReplyDeleteFrom what I have seen, The Hartford Courant has no interest in exposing the wrongdoing that has been going on in family court.
ReplyDeleteThe lawsuit was filed last week on 11/3. It lists Hiebel, Roeder, and the group as defendants.
ReplyDeletehttp://www.jud.ct.gov/jud2.htm
MMX-CV14-5008344-S DOE, JANE v. HIEBEL, DONALD Et Al
I guess karma really does come back around. I went to Hiebel with my ex for a few sessions.
ReplyDeleteAt the first session, there was a list of all his patients laying on the table in the waiting room. I looked and saw a few people I knew. I brought the list into the session to let him know it was sitting out there for everyone to see. He laughed and said "So much for confidentiality." He spent a good amount of time discussing how difficult it was to make money in his business because he had to work night hours.
After seeing him for separate sessions, my ex told him that he was having an affair with another woman (unbeknownst to me at the time), with whom he was business partners.
When we went back for joint sessions. He was suggesting bizarre recommendations, such as, build an addition on your home so you have some privacy. My ex had already expressed he was going bankrupt. At the time I didn't know he was transferring and hiding the money with his lover/business partner.
Heibel then suggested that he would "mediate" our divorce. Clearly unethical and unprofessional since he had knowledge that money was being stolen from me. How could he possibly mediate a divorce when he had that information and I didn't?
Since then I have known other women who have been stuck with him in child custody disputes. He has screamed at them if they express any disagreement. He has bullied and terrorized them.
This man is a dangerous person to be given that kind of power. Sure, he had a good reputation at one time, but who knew? Lots of immoral unethical people have good reputations for a while, until they're found out.
OMG!!! Seriously, this man is sick!! I went there back in 1990's. There was -- back then!!-- a list of patient on the table. I recognized a few people on the list. And he said....yes, he did...."so much for condfidentiality"!!!!!!!!!! And like you, talked about about how he had to work night hours to make money in his business. What is wrong with this man!!!! Same spiel 20 years later!!!!!!! We ended up with separate sessions, the ex told him about this affair.
ReplyDeleteWe went back for joint marital sessions. Ex told him he was going bankrupt. He told me why don't you add an ADDITION ON HOUR HOME...FOR PRIVACY!!!!!! This is 20 years ago.
Also, my ex's lover was a business partner. HEIBEL then said he would mediate our divorce!! Can't believe it's the exact same scam!!! Know other women he's screamed at and terrorized!!
Saw a name "onemorethatgotstuckwithheibel", I believe with google, who wrote on a private group about traumatizing experiences. This man is sick, the fact that he is doing EXACTLY the same things 20 yrs later is bizarre Found an article, "divorceinconnecticut.blogspot.co/2014/11/widely.used.family.court-- couldn't exactly copy the link. Please write me, elaine.wiltsie4@gmail.com. This man is dangerous. He is still in the court system.
I would be willing to do what I can to help vulnerable people going through traumatic times to be protected from him.